Do You Suffer From 'One-Itis'?
You know you are suffering from one-itis if you believe that the guy you are dating is the answer to all your prayers! Or perhaps it’s a guy you were dating but has since dumped you? Or maybe it’s a guy you have never dated but dream of day and night? Or maybe it’s someone else’s guy and you can’t stop thinking about him because you are convinced that:
HE IS THE ONE!
Did you know that lots of guys suffer from ONE-ITIS as well?
According to successful pick-up artists, the only cure for guys who suffer from this condition is:
GFTOW
(I’ll tell you what that means in a moment)
Being guys, that’s how they like to communicate. They have an acronym for everything. Some examples from the “pick-up” community:
HB = hot babe
UG = ugly girl
IOI = indicator of interest
ONS = one night stand
LTRs = long term relationships
MLTRs = multiple long term relationships
Of course, the cure for females who are suffering from one-itis is different from the cure that works for males. But the reasoning behind the cure suggested for males is just as valid for females.
The experienced PUA argues that the only way he can keep a female is to be able to walk away from her. No-matter what!
It doesn’t matter whether he thinks that she is the best thing since sliced bread, the professional PUA (those that are out there teaching less able guys how to be successful with women) teaches his students that they must be able to show that they are not needy. And better still: be not-needy!
We all know when we are around a guy that is needy –right? These are the guys that constantly seek/need reassurance or support. Sometimes it’s not obvious that the guy is needy till we have been dating them for a while. Some times it’s obvious straight away. But once we work out that he is needy, we lose attraction. (What we do from there depends on the female involved and that’s a whole different topic for future article!)
That’s the problem with ONE ITIS. The great feelings that come with that sense that he (or she) is THE ONE, also can leave us dependant and needy unless we have developed core strengths.
HE IS THE ONE!
Did you know that lots of guys suffer from ONE-ITIS as well?
According to successful pick-up artists, the only cure for guys who suffer from this condition is:
GFTOW
(I’ll tell you what that means in a moment)
Being guys, that’s how they like to communicate. They have an acronym for everything. Some examples from the “pick-up” community:
HB = hot babe
UG = ugly girl
IOI = indicator of interest
ONS = one night stand
LTRs = long term relationships
MLTRs = multiple long term relationships
Of course, the cure for females who are suffering from one-itis is different from the cure that works for males. But the reasoning behind the cure suggested for males is just as valid for females.
The experienced PUA argues that the only way he can keep a female is to be able to walk away from her. No-matter what!
It doesn’t matter whether he thinks that she is the best thing since sliced bread, the professional PUA (those that are out there teaching less able guys how to be successful with women) teaches his students that they must be able to show that they are not needy. And better still: be not-needy!
We all know when we are around a guy that is needy –right? These are the guys that constantly seek/need reassurance or support. Sometimes it’s not obvious that the guy is needy till we have been dating them for a while. Some times it’s obvious straight away. But once we work out that he is needy, we lose attraction. (What we do from there depends on the female involved and that’s a whole different topic for future article!)
That’s the problem with ONE ITIS. The great feelings that come with that sense that he (or she) is THE ONE, also can leave us dependant and needy unless we have developed core strengths.
If you find yourself feeling needy then you may need to practice THE CURE.
Like I said, the cure for guys is GFTOW.
This cure has a double-sided benefit.
In order to be able to carry out the cure, a guy must have developed a degree of skill in dealing with women that only comes from lots of practice and experience.
Once a guy has lots of experience being successful with women, he stops being needy. He knows that he is in control of this important area of his life. He knows how to generate and keep attraction. He knows that if things don’t work out with the female he is involved with that he can go out and attract other females.
On the one hand, he stops being needy and, on the other, he ends up being able to attract women easily.
But being able to put the cure into effect is not as simple as taking a pill! It takes work – some pretty scary work at that – before the average guy can actually carry out the cure.
What is the cure?
Go F--- Ten Other Women
Whenever a guy writes in to one of the pick-up forums and he is spotted as having ONE ITIS, this is the cure that is usually recommended! – GFTOW. (By the way he can get all this without sleeping with women - so GDateTOW would work just as well but maybe not sell so many products for the professional PUA!)
Like I said, the cure for guys is GFTOW.
This cure has a double-sided benefit.
In order to be able to carry out the cure, a guy must have developed a degree of skill in dealing with women that only comes from lots of practice and experience.
Once a guy has lots of experience being successful with women, he stops being needy. He knows that he is in control of this important area of his life. He knows how to generate and keep attraction. He knows that if things don’t work out with the female he is involved with that he can go out and attract other females.
On the one hand, he stops being needy and, on the other, he ends up being able to attract women easily.
But being able to put the cure into effect is not as simple as taking a pill! It takes work – some pretty scary work at that – before the average guy can actually carry out the cure.
What is the cure?
Go F--- Ten Other Women
Whenever a guy writes in to one of the pick-up forums and he is spotted as having ONE ITIS, this is the cure that is usually recommended! – GFTOW. (By the way he can get all this without sleeping with women - so GDateTOW would work just as well but maybe not sell so many products for the professional PUA!)
Now I'm not saying that I support guys using this as a cure! In fact, quite the opposite!
In any event, this cure would not work for us females.
For one thing it takes no skill for most females to be able to go out and FTOM! We would not learn the kinds of things that a guy has to learn in order to pull this cure off.
But more importantly: males and females are hard-wired differently.
The experiences that make a male more attractive – because he becomes sexually powerful and can attract many females – actually reduce the attractiveness of females. That’s because males and females are looking for different qualities.
Males that are seeking a mate are looking for females who they can trust to be sexually loyal. Do not underestimate this drive. Because the urge of nature is to reproduce and so a male seeks to find a mate that he knows will not be open to being “poached” by other guys.
We females, on the other hand are seeking guys who will be emotionally faithful. These are the guys who will not get poached by other women (Trust me - there’s heaps of research on this!)
For one thing it takes no skill for most females to be able to go out and FTOM! We would not learn the kinds of things that a guy has to learn in order to pull this cure off.
But more importantly: males and females are hard-wired differently.
The experiences that make a male more attractive – because he becomes sexually powerful and can attract many females – actually reduce the attractiveness of females. That’s because males and females are looking for different qualities.
Males that are seeking a mate are looking for females who they can trust to be sexually loyal. Do not underestimate this drive. Because the urge of nature is to reproduce and so a male seeks to find a mate that he knows will not be open to being “poached” by other guys.
We females, on the other hand are seeking guys who will be emotionally faithful. These are the guys who will not get poached by other women (Trust me - there’s heaps of research on this!)
The cure for ONE ITIS - it turns out - also increases the likelyhood of faithfullness.
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Your friend,
Angela
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